I recently realized I need to be in love with someone who can hypnotize me and be hypnotized by me. Which is good, because I am. Hypnosis, as I understand it, is guiding someone to believe something is true. You cannot be hypnotized if you don’t want to be. This also means you have to trust the hypnotist enough to actually listen to what they are telling you and want to believe it. This is something Dan and I can do with each other. There are times he sort of hypnotizes me to chill about whatever I’m nerving up about, and there’ve also been some situations in which I led Dan when he was really stuck on some problem or worry. It’s similar to the idea of mind over matter, only it let’s you rely on someone else’s mind instead of just your own. When he hypnotizes me, it’s kinda like he takes me out of where I was mentally, to someplace calmer. I respond to the use of my name (vs. honey or being non-specifially addressed) as well as eye contact and touch (hands on my shoulders). This pulls all my attention to him and allows me to absorb what he is saying. Then I just have to listen and believe. Don’t misunderstand me here- this isn’t about him telling me the color blue is actually pink or that an open door is really shut. It’s about more intangible things: what I can do, what the future will bring, how bad a situation is. The sort of answers you get for questions like that can’t be proven well and so you are almost forced to have an intangible and changeable answer. Dan helps me get better answers. And there have been times, one very strongly stands out, that I hypnotized Dan to get him through something bad by giving him better answers. And it only works because of who we both are and the fact that we trust one another.
What I’m writing on the blog inside my head:
Let Go and Let God = Zen Christianity?
Is prayer like self hypnosis?
Songs, more poem or story?